Do you yearn for your child to be HAPPY in the future?.... Read this!

Let’s face it, we love our children so dearly that we only want the absolute best for them right?

Out of our deepest love for them, we have many desires for their futures.

Typically some of these may include:

For them to be happy, healthy, respectful & successful.

Then there are more direct desires (admit it or not, many of us hold them within our subconscious) which may include things like:

For them to play football, work in the family business, start talking, start walking, be sociable, do what they are told, express their emotions freely, get married & start a family… and the list goes on.

I used to think by having positive aspirations for my children, I was showing them encouragement, hope and my love for them to thrive in the world..

I assure you, every desire was coming from a place of LOVE.

However I have recently realised that perhaps my list has been coming from a place from deep within myself, in other words….. MY desires, MY wishes and MY expectations of them (based around my own personal life experience & fears).

So putting myself aside for a moment… I stopped to ponder….

Does MY CHILD really want all of these things for him/herself?

Maybe there is a chance that he doesn’t desire all of these things?

Maybe she doesn’t enjoy playing sport, but loves singing instead..

Maybe his purpose here on earth is to teach others by never uttering a word,

Maybe she will be successful, and get average grades in school,

The biggest lesson I have learnt recently is, our expectations more likely than not, put pressure on our children.

When they feel pressure, they become unauthentic to themselves. This blocks their ability to be able to focus on the things that their soul's are craving, they end up spending most of their time trying to please us, rather than themselves.

So how can we begin to change our perspective?

Focus on today – focus on the present moment, appreciate the wonders that you DO see in them…. Because usually if we look hard enough, what we are searching for, is actually right in front of our eyes already. It’s possibly already happening in the NOW.

Our expectations of our children often (unintentionally) create feelings of LACK within them…. Meaning if we are constantly hoping and wishing for them to be something that we perceive them not to be right now, then we are sending them messages that there is something missing.

With this in mind, it’s important for us to consider how this might be making them feel, if their biggest role model in life feels like there is always something missing or lacking?

I now have one clear desire for my children’s futures which removes all of the pressure of me feeling like I need to mould them into how they ‘should’ be, and it allows them to step into their own power…

My newfound desire is:

“For both of my children to be in touch with their true spirit’s and follow their hearts through life.”

When we tap into who we truly are underneath all of the expectations of this world…. We begin to shine. This has been my own personal journey of healing and transformation since I birthed my children… and I could only dream that they will grow up knowing who they truly are.

This doesn’t in any way mean we are giving up on them, we are simply freeing them so they can chase their own dreams.

Many of us have been taught (unknowingly) in our own childhood’s that we need to: Fit in, do things how they ‘should be’ done, follow the crowd, do what is ‘normal’, gain approval from others….and do what we are told…

Let’s shift this old paradigm for our children!

Let’s empower them to check in with themselves, do what feels right for their soul’s, follow what lights them up & speak their truth in life…even if that means being unique….

Because when we can support our children in this new way- the world is their oyster… in a way that feels aligned with them…not others.

If you feel called to step in and shift this old paradigm, and as a mum have the opportunity to create a new perspective and environment for our children to thrive to their best potential… then I invite you to download my FREE ‘5 Days to FLOW’ mini-course. CLICK HERE to download and get started on this journey of empowerment now.

Sending love,

Darrielle x